Guard your heart. part IV

Take it slow. Set Clear Boundaries

Do
not
take
it
fast.
(Take it slow)Yes, especially if you are in a dating relationship right now. Keep your progression steady.

Songs of Solomon 2:7 "Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right."

Songs of Solomon is like the wedding/honeymoon section of the bible. Quick interpretation: you should not engage in sexual activity before the time is right and it uses the term awaken, to rouse from sleep..

I see young people (tweeens) and they are all over each other, they're dating and they are holding hands, kissing, hugging one another and the guy would put his arms around the girl and he's kinda like showing to the world, “hey she belongs to me”

Completely inappropriate. Don't act like you're married when you're not. I'm not even talking sexually yet. But I am coming from a perspective that there will be no other way that a certain girl will touch my future husband (LOLsiiiiieeee see Guard your heart Part 1). When you are not in a covenant relationship (marriage) just NO TOUCH. I will say it again, Don't touch in such a way like married people touch one another.

What happens to steps 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10?

It's so funny in our culture today like people don't know each other and like a day in a camp, people go, “I like you, you like me” yeyeyeye and then by the last day of the camp, they go stroke each other's hair,they're sitting on each other's knee. Isn't that weird? But that's what culture holds as kind of normal.. hooking up. You know this generation is actually losing it's ability to delay gratification primarily in sex and money.

Girls, you need to say to guys, “I am not going to allow us to be in tempting environment.”
Guys, you need to say to girls, “I am not gonna touch you in an impure way”

Guys often lose their strength and dignity of character in this area. Sometimes, the temptation to see and experience a female body becomes a mind consuming hunger.. and here's where guys go wrong.. they start to think that they can just do a little bit or just enought to alleviate that hunger. It starts with fantasy, masturbation, porn, and they go like... hold hands with this girl, 1st phase with this girl, 2nd phase, 3rd phase. Hunger alleviation? Naaaa a.

Girls start fantasizing with their trashy romance novels too.. this is kind of like the girl's porn. I did this too ok..
Not just that, you may have heard this phrase before, “Guys give love to get sex and and girls often give sex to get love” Well the truth is, sex outside of covenant marriage destroys love.

Here is something you need to understand about human nature, we hunger from what we feed on. People who eat sweets, junkfood all the time, when they're hungry, they're looking for sweets and junk foods. The hunger only goes down if you don't eat them for several weeks.. I believe sexuality is no different; the good dog and the bad dog explains it.


The Good Dog and the Bad Dog @ the backyard of your soul. When you continually feed the bad dog, it will be bigger, stronger and tomorrow it will demand more. I'm telling you when you look at a woman lustfully, when you fool around, it may alleviate sexual hunger for just a little bit but tomorrow the hunger will come back bigger and stronger than it was the day before. Don't believe in the lie that doing just a little bit will help you to not do it a lot.

In all things we always have the choice to feed whichever dog we want. Nourish the good dog. God's word. Prayers and Worship.