Thoughts on Proverbs 31 Woman

Across the bible, there are plenty of stories of men and women of faith falling because of choosing poorly who to have a relationship with. Samson, for instance, he looked, he liked, and saw there was a green light, he went. Later in his life, it cost him his strength, dignity, relationship with God and one of the heaviest in the deal, his hair??? Ultimately, it cost him his life.

In a typical North American picture of wrong relationship for the wrong reason, we sell our identity to a person, we begin to give them every waking minute of our spare time putting other friendships at risk. Guys become absorbed with sexual temptation, destroys connection with God. Girls give themselves away in hopes of making the connection better, strengthen the relationship but what it does is that it affects the relationship; they become needy, clingy, desperate, because she's given a part of herself to that person and she will have an innate fear of being left, like a blackhole sucking life out of the person.

This is the time that they fight a lot. Sin begins to do what sin does. Choosing poorly takes a high cost.

"Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. Matthew 7:13 The bible's saying she is a rare phenomenon, worth more than rubies.

Wife of Noble Character.
Proverbs 31:10-12
10c A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.

Determining that you would only date a person that meets God's standards for you is the best thing you can do while still single. So, what does God approve of ? These are the things God wants to see in your dating profile...

1. Hard Worker.

Proverbs 31:
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.

Overwhelmed by verses? Here are some points:

(v. 13,24) Hardworking woman is not buying clothes but making clothes,
Not that we should all be making clothes but what we should keep in mind is that financial pressure is the number 1 leading cause of divorce. So before you become too intrigued by someone's fatty wardrobe, please think a little deeper,

(v15)gets up while still dark- There is no person exist in the planet, who gets up while still dark on their own initiative. Jesus often got up while still dark to spend time with the father. Jesus is an OUTLIER

A vigorously hardworker has a whole list of a Christ's attitude already formed in them, They tend to be disciplined, self-controlled, has a sense of purpose about their lives, They are more likely to overcome obstacles, they are not selfish, but are dedicated and committed

Every married friend I know told me that marriage is one of the wonderful things in life but is one of the hardest work you could ever have. A relationship to a person who is not highly dedicated person might be a marriage but it would not become a great marriage, because all things that are worth doing in life require hard work, marriage is no different. No shortcuts, no get-rich-quick schemes. Martin Luther coined marriage as, "The school of character."


2. Compassionate

Proverbs 31:20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.

To contrast the desirable woman of our times (those Victoria Secret models) than the woman of noble character. This spring break there'll be a lot of people who will extend their arms to bare her chest to the cameras of the world. Eventually they'll be passed around and shared by everyone. But there are still some culturally misfit who will open their arms to the poor, extend their hands to those in need. They might not have that much TV coverage but these are the kind of people you should unashamedly set your sights on. One of the ultimate litmus test for someone who has a relationship with God is that they care for those in need.


3. Honorable, pure and strong

23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

The bible says, she is clothed with strength.. She is strong and not like those who is waiting for someone who will rescue her from her helplessness.


They are not anemic souls walking around. These are people of spiritual density.

In 1940, only 2% of the population knew what it was like for their husbands to leave them for another person. Today, over 50% of first-time marriages end in divorce

One of the biggest issues is extramarital relationships. Fear of the Lord is important.


Since childhood, I'm a firm believer of living-happily-ever-after though (not fairy tale setting) there are hardships and tribulations from side to side. The stakes are high, your lifetime is hanging in the balance. I think there is only one way to go: choose according to God's standard on the kind of person you are willing to have a relationship with.